This is The Only Expectation You Should Have For Other People

Expect that people will always do what's best for them sooner or later.

I recently had a conversation with my childhood friend who got married a few years back about something he has been frustrated with for a long time. He told me that he needed council on how to exert his power over his wife.

I naturally asked why he wanted to do that to which he replied that his wife doesn’t seem to recognize that his needs have to be served. He went on to give an example of when he comes back from work very tired and his wife has not cooked food because she claims she was tired.

This is why he told me he needs to find a way to make her more submissive.

As much as I would have loved to give him advice that helps him get his dominant power, I couldn’t find any that speaks to my values as a human being, and also I have sisters… If any of them were to meet a man who wants that out of them, it would never sit well with me and I do not want to think about what I would do to such a person.

Many cultures around the world have intentionally or unintentionally trained men to treat women poorly for the lack of a more emphatic word.

In my culture, for example, women are expected to kneel while greeting especially when greeting men. This is something that has never sat well with me nor my sisters. For them, they found a loophole around it since it is not necessary to kneel when greeting in English so they use English when they know it will be awkward for them to kneel down.

This is however a very normal thing in my culture that most women don’t even think should be changed at all. And trust me there were and there still are practices that are much worse than just kneeling.

I have struggled to reconcile these unhelpful expectations with my values. I never want anyone to ever kneel before me ever. I also want to take an active role in improving the way I look at women and the expectations I am supposed to have for them.

During our conversation, when my friend found out that I was having a different…

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